With a new partner, it’s easy to ignore red flags in your relationship while focusing on the positives.
Red flags are intuitive images to help you process what you’re feeling. Here are some toxic relationship red flags you should keep an eye out for;
You’ve got nothing to talk about
If you’re questioning your compatibility with your partner, finding that you quickly run out of things to talk about together might be a sign that you just aren’t right for each other.
Stories of crazy exes
Pay attention to the language your partner uses when discussing those they’ve dated in the past. This perspective deflects responsibility and demonstrates lack of respect for the people they once cared for and loved.
Lack of communication
These individuals find it difficult to express how they feel especially when it seems important to be open and honest. They distance themselves emotionally, leaving their partner hanging with a situation on their own.
A dark or secretive past
Behaviors that include illegal activities and addictive behaviors that haven’t been resolved and continue into your relationship are obvious red flags. Don’t ignore anything that strikes you as strange or makes you feel uncomfortable.
They call you names in arguments
Be wary of anyone who seems to transform into an unrecognizable monster when you disagree, calling you names that make you feel less. It is a sign of disrespect and poor conflict resolution skills.
They’re cruel to their parents.
Keep your eye open for partners who have a fundamental lack of respect for their parents. If they can afford to be harsh and ungrateful to the people who literally gave them life, what does that say about how they’ll treat others who get close to them?
They cheated on their last partner with you
It might be wise to learn a little more about this person’s romantic history, because there’s a chance that every relationship they’ve had has overlapped with the next one. It’s a matter of time before they cheat on you too.
They demand your phone and social media passwords
Why would they want to date someone they don’t trust? And what does that say about whatever untrusty worthy habits or temptations they might be projecting onto you? You are entitled to autonomy and privacy.
They guilt trip you every chance they get
Some people have an uncanny talent for making their partner feel personally responsible and guilty for all their misfortunes. These are not people you want to date.
They refuse to make your relationship public
Some people don’t splash their personal life onto social media or talk much about their feelings with friends, but that’s different from intentionally hiding your partnership.
Learn to trust what you feel.